It is so appropriate that my last blog post, circa two years
ago, the preface to the journey I just ended today, included lyrics from
Neutral Milk Hotel’s King of Carrot
Flowers Part 1. This morning, on my walk with Abbie, I had a craving for
Neutral Milk Hotel, specifically for King
of Carrot Flowers Part 2, which I bellowed into the windy May air. I love
evenness, perfect synchronized timings, when things line up, and this whole day
has felt full of that.
Kit introduced me to Neutral Milk Hotel the summer I left
the bank and prepared to enter grad school. She said it was the quintessential
cool music of her high school. I looked it up, and the album In the Aeroplane Over the Sea became my
soundtrack of that post-bank, pre-grad time. It felt to me like a kind
thunderstorm in summer dusk, like gusts of loving rain washing the outside
environment so that it could become something else.
Today was a day of endings. My last classes of grad school.
My last assignment dunked via email while my friend Fleur played Prince’s 1999 in
celebration of my end, hers soon to follow.
The first of my two classes today was the most climactic,
thanks to the best prof I’ve had in the program, a guy who spent our last
couple hours together giving us a proper end with pizza, sharing, and poetry.
The poem, which reminded me of Blood Bank,
did me in, and I teared up, not quite able to stem the slight brimming of tears
but not trying hard to stop either. There was a lot of gratitude for the prof
and a knowledge that classes are ending—these things I kind of love.
I often think of Andy Bernard’s statement in the last
episode of The Office, “I wish there
was a way to know you're in the good old days before you've actually left them.”
I did know. I knew, especially during the last sem, as I sat amongst fellow
students, that I liked this, the
community, the fellow learning, even the shared complaining. But even this
knowledge, this mental self-pinching, doesn’t fully plunge you into the current
moment. It’s an early goodbye, an ‘I’m going to miss this.’ It occurs to me now
that the only thing that helps is presence in the moment—something that, now
written, already is a mental construct. As soon as we say it, we’re distanced
from it. As soon as we think about it, we’re looking in, window-shopping.
Fortunately this semester was not bereft of present connection.
One of the best memories of the sem is leading a heist in a class to overturn a
heinous assignment and turn it into a more feasible one. I can thank the child
I’m carrying for the other notable example of communal connection. I had wanted
to be part of a community while pregnant, and I got my wish. I couldn’t have
picked a better group to be part of during this time, a personable, warm, empathetic
bunch of people who’ve devoted their lives to social work.
Today's endings marched on as I entered Tropical
Smoothie and ordered my favorite, the Carribean C-burst. It’s no longer
carried. I settled peacefully for the Sunrise Sunset, an appropriate name.
I came home to Blondie who has been gulping The Office, his second time watching the
series, and he was just starting the very last episode and asked me to join
him. The episode is all about how there’s beauty even in the most mundane
things. It was comforting to see this; it ground in the message that had been
at the back of my mind all day, that the thing that’s coming is the thing I’m most going to want to be there for, the
good old days I’m most going to want to plunge into.
In the last two years, I have better learned how to be
present. I have practiced putting aside my desire for excellence and diving
instead into what I want. The Office’s Pam
desperately wanted viewers to do this very thing. I hope I can give weight
to what I want, outside the nurturing context of school. When I left college, I don’t
think I knew how to do that. Today I’m a bit better.
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That fave prof's class minus the prof who is taking the pic. 4/4/17 |
“And on the lazy days
The dogs dissolve and drain away
The world it goes
And all awaits
The day we are awaiting
Up and over we go
Through the wave and undertow
I will float until I learn how to swim
Inside my mother in a garbage bin
Until I find myself again, again”
-Neutral Milk Hotel